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Holiday Loneliness Conquered by Camera

December 23, 2011

All of the socks come out of the dryer with a mate except for one. You.

Wouldn’t be so bad if it weren’t for all those holiday get-togethers. Boyfriends and girlfriends, husbands and wives, lovers of all variety having one another to fall back on, leave with. Family, work, and friends all gathering (paired) to spread the holiday cheer.

You’re expected to go and have fun too, even if you are the lonely sock.

So what’s a person to do?

Good news! It’s easier than ever now to have fun on your own, in any situation.

Just appoint yourself the photographer!

Now, you can even use your iPhone or android to take candid shots. Whether you tell anyone or not is up to you. The point is, you have a mission now, a greater purpose. A cause.

You’re no longer the lonely sock, you’re a rogue spy. You have a reason to interact, to draw a crowd, to instigate fun. When you become the self-appointed photographer you take the focus off you, pun intended, and concentrate instead on capturing all the fun. We’re always happiest when we’re doing something for others!

Imagine how much fun it will be to share those photos after the party’s over.

It works for parties and it works if you want to travel someplace, but don’t have anyone to join you.

Think about it. Do you ever feel lonely going to the store? No, you’re on a mission to buy something. You have a definite purpose. Do you feel lonely when you’re fishing, or painting, or knitting, or baking, or cutting the grass, or washing the dishes? No, because you have a purpose and that makes all the difference.

The great thing about the camera is you not only have a purpose (to record the sights and mood of the occasion) but you also  have a tangible product when you’re done…photographs!

Many photographers and artist have more fun manipulating the images afterward (with programs like Photoshop) than they did taking the pictures initially. So you get double the fun.

If you have a digital SLR camera, that’s great. But you don’t need to lug obvious or expensive equipment to get results. Many times a big camera and lens actually makes people freeze up or move away. But folks seem to love hamming it up in front of the tiny cell phone lens.

In my survey of amateur photographers, 93% said taking photos made them feel good about themselves, it boosted their self-esteem and 80% said photo taking made them feel more connected to the community, it increased their interaction with other people.

This holiday season, if you want to feel really good about yourself and have a blast at all those parties you were dreading, break out the camera!

Fear not, even if your photo taking skills are lacking. The same survey of photographers showed that it didn’t matter if the photos were good or bad, those taking the photos still felt all the positive benefits. It was the ACT of taking photos, not the actual photo quality that made the difference.

Embrace your lonely sock-ness. Roam untethered through the season, capturing all the action, and you just might find in the end… you’ve become the life of the party!

For more information on how to become a happier, healthier you while having fun with your camera, check out “Your F-Stop Guide to Fitness”

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Coming Up: My interview with Dr. Lisa Rene Reynolds, psychologist, marital counselor, and  author of the great new book, “Parenting Through Divorce” . She shares her expert opinion on how photography helps folks create a more positive atmosphere through the loneliness and trauma of marital breakups. Her book offers a unique perspective on how to best protect and nurture the children through this difficult time. She says certain photos can really help!

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